Unity in marriage needs this constraint: don’t make a decision affecting
the marriage unless both agree. That may sound unworkable, but it means that neither
partner can resent a decision made by the other. Here are some examples.
Ann and I attended an investment seminar together but I was skeptical
of the excessive claims made for property investment. But it seemed good to Ann
and important to her and there was a possibility it might work. We both agreed to
go ahead.
Due to a downturn in the markets, the decision was a poor one and caused
us financial headaches for years. But despite my misgivings, we took the
decision together and so weathered the difficulties together.
While living in the Lower mainland, we searched for a house to buy,
but it took over a year to find the right one. Each of us found different places
we liked, but which did not satisfy other. The home we finally bought was one
of the best we owned.
When we moved to the prairies the situation was different. Due to
various restraints, we needed to move quickly and Ann went ahead to find a
place to live. I gave my agreement to her choice before she made it, knowing
from experience it would be a good one.
This meant that I relinquished my right of veto to ensure our plans
moved quickly. Ann bought an ideal house for us, which was also a good
investment, reflecting a good decision on my part!
